Since yesterday a serious discussion has been happening on PuneTech on a BarCamp Pune topic.
I didn't like the tone of the article and hence i posted a comment which triggered a few other comments, a pretty intense and interesting discussion.
Nevertheless the same discussion made me think on another facet of our lives 'winning', 'success'.
Since childhood we are trained or told that we have to succeed in whatever we do, in the class we have to stand first, in the sports field we have to win the medals, in the elocution contest we have to be in top 3, in the competitive exams we have to succeed, if we are participating in any contest or any activity we have to "WIN", we have to "SUCCEED".
The simple question that triggered in my mind after reading that article and during that discussion (which was sure at the back of my mind) was "WHY?"
Why we have to succeed in whatever we do?
A student joins basketball and people start expecting him to be the best in his team, a child starts to learn piano and his/her parents start expecting him to be a composer all this along with being best at studies and school.
Such a child when grows up and become a working professional he unconsiously starts expecting from himself in every walk of life to be the best.
Best at work place, if he starts learning tennis he wants to be the best in a few days, he wants to be likeable, he wants to be impressive, if he hosts a party he wants it to be the best. If he does any other activity in life he wants to Succeed in that and win in every possible thing.
This extra pressure he creates himself under which he starts to become frustrated if he fails in any of that. And this pressure he puts on self is in addition to the pressure of the expectations around him.
If a musician or mason or salesman or football coach or doctor or swimmer is good at his work, why does he/she needs to be good in rest other things also. If without much efforts they are good at everything else too well and good but if not then why put so much extra pressure on self that we forget to enjoy the life?
If a salesman is good at his job and he joins swimming but couldn't learn it properly, why sweat it so much? If a doctor starts playing football as a fun activity why should he aim to be a ronaldo, romario or even close home bhutia? Why can't he just have fun playing the football, howsoever bad or worse he plays. At the end of the day he doesn't earn his living by playing football.
This pressure of expectations is created by:
2. Our families
3. Our friends and acquaintances
4. And even unknown people.
After a certain period of time we need to put a stop to these expectations from self in every walk of life and start enjoying life.
If we are good at one thing (not even best) in life that is more than enough, rest other things we do we should be able to enjoy them rather than putting self inflicted pressure or succumbing to others pressure.
We are our own judge and whatever people think of us or expect of us, first we should be making sure our expectations from self are right.
And if we are not the best in anything we do, it doesn't mean that we have no place in the world.
Tuesday, June 2, 2009
After going through all the tweets since yesterday I don't know why i am ecstatic.
Nothing special about today's tweets it just that so much tech news poring in from so many places, US, UK, India and within India specially from Pune.
Feels like I am in the middle of watching technology unfold at every step and thanks to twitter for the same.
Forget being "followed", just following so many people from so many different backgrounds is so enriching experience that it makes you feel that you are really "Following" them.
Where @anguslogan is tweeting that he is at Belltown Pizza with @jsenior, @punetech on the other hand is tweeting about pune tweet 2 (a twittering event being organized in pune on 6th #ptu2).
@bing is launched and enjoying its stay and all the attention it is grabbing and busy fixing IE6 issues with bing.
And in the middle of all this tech news and enjoying at eateries and all there is @vishalgangawane twittering a 'sher' which feels like a cool breeze and gives me a good idea (may be its already implemented but who knows?) , he stole from @akankshatyagi off twitter:
'mat pooch ke kya haal hai mera tere peeche, tu dekh ke kya rang tera mere aage'
So all of you who are scratching there heads as to who are all these with '@' names. Guys you need to be on twitter. If you want to be in touch , go with world, you need to be on twitter.
If you are not on twitter you are missing the fun.